Asking for a Friend: My spouse and I have an open marriage. We share finances, and I’m uncomfortable with how much they’re spending on dates.
When a partner's spending on dates starts to feel uncomfortable, it's rarely just about the money. Here's how to start a conversation about spending, savings, and staying aligned on your shared goals — without the blame or shame.
Asking for a Friend: How do I know if this financial advisor is giving me advice…or just trying to sell me something?
When hiring a financial advisor, one of the most important details is how they get paid. An advisor's compensation model can influence not only the type of advice you receive, but whether that advice truly serves your best interests or is swayed by other incentives. Learn the key differences between fee-only, fee-based, and commission-based advisors, and the questions you should ask before hiring anyone.
Asking for a Friend: How do you afford electrolysis when your insurance calls it “cosmetic” but your gender dysphoria says otherwise?
Electrolysis is often dismissed by insurance as “cosmetic,” but for many trans and gender diverse people it’s essential gender-affirming care. In this post, I share practical ways to challenge insurance denials, estimate out-of-pocket costs, save intentionally, and find mutual aid and grant programs.
Asking for a Friend: Is My Monthly CalPERS or CalSTRS Pension Taxable?
One of the most common questions I hear from people about to receive a CalPERS or CalSTRS pension is: How is my pension taxed? This post breaks down the difference between federal and state income tax rules and explains how both pension systems handle tax withholding.
Asking for a Friend: How do I integrate money into a D/s dynamic?
Curious about bringing money into your BDSM or D/s relationship? When done safely financial domination can deepen intimacy and trust between partners. Learn how to set financial boundaries, choose safer payment methods, and spot red flags in a findom dynamic.